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Help Two HUNGRY Disabled Young Trans Men Survive the Shelter! - Desperately Need Aid against Stalker Mother
Hello, you might recognize me from these posts. We appreciate all the support but need help again. My husband and I currently homeless having been kicked out of our respective abusive transphobic and homophobic homes. Abuse that has strongly continued even we’ve been the shelter system since December 2nd. My mother has been aggressively harassment through phone and email. She has harrassed calling 25+ times to Stephen’s mother and step-father demanding that they tell her our address. I have blocked her across all devices and she continues to make accounts to message me threating emails that range from briding me to come home and separate from my husband effectively abandoning him in the shelter and to kidnapping me and placing me in a mental institution. My mother has a strong history of stalking, sabtogating and violence towards others. On May, she sent two demonstrating that she knew about the Gofundme which you can continue to donate to. Here. As as well knowing my address. I’m terrified of her. Terrified I placed a report against her that may or may not have resulted in her arrest as a required step of getting an order of protection against her.
Both my husband and I had filed reported against her. My mother has threatened violence against my husband.
Even since this shelter started been completely transparent about my mother’s intense abuse with DHS and HRA official but since the abuse was from my mother, not an intimate partner I have no entitlement to NOVA ( domestic violence services that would expedited my husband and I getting housing ) despite all acknowledgement from officials that if my mother were an intimate partner we would have well qualified.
Prior to homelessness since my mother had been consistently threatening to kick us out we pondered ending the shelter system and pursuing a LINC voucher. When we became homeless and created this donation post we continued with the LINC voucher in mind. Unfortunately, due to the slow and outwardly hostile shelter system, we were delayed months in pursuit of the voucher despite having the recommended savings because neither my husband and I were working. Both my husband and I were enrolled in school full time. He just finished his medical leave from school due to this surgery and back to full time. However we had been entitled to a disability during the duration of his months’ long recovery WE DID NOT RECIEVE because we not informed that it was an option by our shelter despite providing extensive documentary in regards to the surgery multiple. There was have been numerous incidents of mismanagement and misinformation which has prevented us from going forward and reaching our goal which getting out of the shelter.
This was our ‘home’ where we slept without a lockable door, proper blankets, access to showers, dormed next a violent domestic abusive couple which was triggering given both of my partner’s and I’s histories. The food provided was uneatable, served spoiled and frozen and resulted in multiple hostipalizations from food posioning.
Tw: violence & domestic violence
We have been moved to a permanent shelter but things are not much better. We are still surrounded by violence everyday. Every night we heard domestic violence, our next door neighbour was being consistently beaten and strangled by her husband. We had reported this to social services, security a number of times. We had called the police several times, it took her being nearly stabbed to death with glass from her husband breaking a mirror over her head resulting in visual scars for him to be taken away. Still, he came back despite being banned and nearly assaulted my husband who was trying to help our neighbor. My husband has encountered this violent man on a number of occasions. This violence no matter how awful is the norm. We hear violence every night. We haven’t been able to sleep well in the entire time we’ve been here. I have nightmares every night. My husband and I have had terrible flashbacks that lasted hours. We report these incidents to no solutions. We live in constant terror because some of the abusers have made it known they will MURDER anyone who tried to report the violence. We are constantly in the prescence of hard drugs as dealers from within the building near fought over illegal methadone in front of our door. We have taken to carrying weapons everyday for our safety.
We have been notoriously underpaid by our benefits only received Cash Assistance of 30 dollars for us both every two weeks when we were entitled at least $90 dollars and more since upon enrollment we were in school. As of right now, our meagre cash assistance is FROZEN and our food stamps case has been CLOSED despite despite our filling out the required cash assistance rectification. We now have to do a fair trial in order for it be turned back on but unsure how long that will take. Despite living a non-cooking facility meaning that our shelter provides NO FOOD of any kind and doesn’t offer any cooking equipment besides a single microwave. Food stamps can only pay for cold food—meaning we are meant to pay ingredients and cook at home but COOKING EQUIPMENT ( hotplates, toasters, rice cookers, instapots, etc ) is forbidden in our shelter. As a consolation, we are supposed to recieve restaurant dollars to buy hot food but haven’t received a single cent of it the duration we have had benefits despite showing information that our shelter is a non-cooking facility multiple times. We are forced to either be completely dependent on food kitchens and food pantries which are minimum 30 minutes away by car from our shelter. We smuggled in a hot plate but it can be confiscated at any time if found during a room inspection. We are both disabled and mentally ill so cooking is not an option all of the time so we ultimately end up settling for cheap fast food which has taken a terrible toll on our physical and mental health as well as quickly use our limited donation money. I am chronically sick as a result of our poor diet.
We are pursuing alternative methods of income since “earned” income is required to even get to SEE a housing specialist ( the single housing specialist assigned to our shelter of 500+ families ). We have been pursuing child support since my husband and I are both nineteen now but were 18 and 19 respectively when entering the shelter system. However, despite filling out the forms months ago, my court date at least is in late July before I can start receiving payments. And without payment as a sort of income, we are barred from seeing the Housing Specialist at to even get more information about Vouchers.
We have tried through our efforts to find out more housing. We have contacted multiple DHS entities, outside non-profit organizations, tried the advice of friends going through the shelter system but since the LINC vouchers have been morphed into one, the process is very new and unclear. We have no other option but to just wait but desperately need money to survive in the meantime. Neither Stephen or I could work. He because of his surgery as well his debilitating mental illnesses and me due to my severe and chronic disabilities. Believe me if either of us work we have—we just want to be out of this terrible shelter so badly. Every day is just a struggle to find the will not to kill ourselves, I apologize for the triggering statement but it’s true. We’re desperate. We just want to get out and start our lives. Six months ago we would have never imagined to be living like this and we just want to live again because right now we are just bareknuckling it and going through the motions.
We are a purusing disability for me but despite having filled and submitted now a month and some change have yet to recieve a date from WeCare to start the process. If/When I get approved for disability we can pursue the alternative route of supportive housing or at the least now have an income ( though my own disability income and being considered a sick family member to Steph who then would be trained and compenstated for taking care of me which is neccessary. ) Even Stephen is cleared he’d be returning to school full-time. Even if he were to shift to part-time which would, “in theory”, give him more time to work he’d be responsible for all the hours missed due to the chaoticness of our homeless rendering unable to work weekends. I can’t be alone, eat alone commute by public transportation at all, and by car alone. I need supervison and assistance at all times.
We have no savings all our donation has been used dealing with the number of complications with Stephen’s surgery ( more information is detailed here ). We need money for Stephen’s upcoming WeCare appointment tomrrow as well as my upcoming therapy appoints.
Transm*ds/T*RFs and Classist please don’t interact with this post. Been lucky not to have a lot of negativity directed at my husband and I but would rather not start. If you feel like my post is suspicious which it isn’t——very much homeless and suffering simply don’t reblog, don’t donate. If you find my cause unsympathetic don’t reblog, don’t donate. I force no one to donate——I appreciate and eternally grateful to those who do but know it’s not forced.
BIG NEEDS
FOOD, like my god just food. Money for hot food.
Uber - Our sole means of transportation of Uber since I can’t literally go on public transport without having anxiety so severe I either vomit or shit myself. We are have required appointment such as my therapy and pysch which are twice each two weeks. Costing 20-25 one way totalling between 40-50 dollars a round trip. We have to go HRA appointment typically once every 2-3 weeks which is 11-13 dollars one way and 22-26 dollars roundtrip.
A storage unit at the moment we live in a 10x10 space room meant for a SINGLE individual. where our full size bed take up a third of the room. The drawer that came with the room has been broken since arrival. As one would living in a space going on six months we accumulate things—-we clean everyday and have purchased a number of storage methods but there simply not enough. We clean our room everyday but there is simply not enough space for our all our possessions.
A large proportion of our belongings already are at Stephen’s abusive grandmother’s house and we’d like to minize interactions with her as much as possible as well as store it in a more accessible place since she lives an hour away by public transport and 30 to 40 minutes away by Uber ( a trip that amounts to $40 both ways )
Recurring Expenses
Phone Bill: 80 dollars, our phones are our everything, our access to money, the contacts we desperately need.
How YOU can Help
GoFund Me
https://www.gofundme.com/manage/help-disabled-trans-men-out-the-shelter
Due to the halt of donations we were forced to dip into our donation from our Gofundme which we wanted to keep as purely savings when we finally get to the point of seeing the housing specialist. Unfortunately, at this point we used all the donation money, all 2,400 to simply keep surviving since GoFundme took a percentage of the 2,500. We have made a new gofundme which includes once again the saving requirement set by the shelter as well as money necessary to keep us afloat till July/August. The goal is now 6,000 which will include the savings required as well as money to hold us over until we can start reviving more of an income in July ( hopefully through child support )
Amazon Wishlist
https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/33HIWHRPJZW6E?ref_=wl_share
The wishlist has listed a range of items that make day to day living easier and some things that would just be nice. Strongly advise ordering by priority because some things are needed more than others.
Note: money donations will always be more help because we can get tangible things more quickly like food our biggest priority at any given time, metrocards now my husband is back in school, cost of Uber. But know every dollar means something so don’t feel bad if you can only offer a dollar, five, each of them adds up and more than we’d have our own.
Cashapp - $Elilut99
Venmo - Elijahlut99
GooglePay - elijahlut@gmail.com
Inquire about PayPal
If you can’t get something from the wishlist, or donate just reblog! Everyone reblog is an major help! 🙏🏿 Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.
If you are curious about more real time updates check out the #strugglejournal tag on my blog. I detail a lot but not everything of my experience.
Link to my husband’s blog @sweetdickheadass
Please consider checking out his his donation related tag ( honestly he is better at keeping up with that than I, too being depressed ) is
UPDATE: People were having issues with the link so reposted it. https://www.gofundme.com/help-disabled-trans-men-out-the-shelter&rcid=r01-155884102732-8dbc97abf55c4cb2&pc=ot_co_campmgmt_w
You may have to make an account because I had to make unsearchable through search engines for safety reasons.
Reminder to everyone while the reblogs are a huge help don’t underestimate the power of the collective. If every person who reblogged donated a dollar we’d be close to a third of a way to our Gofundme goal. Imagine if everyone gave five? Please don’t stress yourself to give large amounts just know that every dollars adds up. Thank you so much for your continued support.
If you have any problems with the links be sure to just DM me~
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$355/6,000
Realized I have a paypal it’s PayPal.com/elilut if the link doesn’t work feel free to DM because I can offer an alternative link. Thanks again for the continued support. 🙏🏿✨
$478/6,000
Thank everyone for the notes that this post is getting but don’t confuse the number of notes for donations. My husband and I are still in desperate need. Every donation helps no matter how small, please consider with each time you reblog.
Outside of the donations given we have no means of getting food, transportion or to buy base necessities like toilet paper which aren’t provided by the shelter.
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$1,558/6,000
Thank you everyone for the reblogs and donations. Attaching both a photo and a scan of my paypal code for those who have trouble finding me on Paypal.
Small Update: I have a doctor’s appointment today and could really use the help with the transportion fee. It’d be $25 on way and $50 for both. If anyone could assist with that would deeply appreciate it. 🙏🏿✨
$1,593/6,000
1,902/6,000
Almost third of the way to our goal. Thank you so much for the continuous support. 🙏🏿✨
Update: Here is my husband’s information so you can donate to him directly as well.
Cashapp: $steviesmilez
Venmo: @Steph236
$1,922/6,000
Please help my baby brother @sweetdickheadass and his husband 💜 They’ve gone through so much to be where they are, they deserve so much better than what they are going through 💕 If you can’t donate, all I ask is for a reblog please 💜💜💜
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Appreciate the notes but remember the power of small donations, every dollar is a dollar closer to our goal.
$2,339/6,000
Thanks for everyone’s gratitude and hope we can keep the momentum of this post. Itching towards half way there.
2,389/6,000
Donations have slowed a bit but the need hasn’t. My husband and I are still very much still disabled, homeless and HUNGRY. As it stands the money in our Gofundme is enough to cover for savings needed for a voucher but nothing left to hold us for the next few months. We are completely dependent on donations to live.
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Start reblogging the money blessings post…
If you haven’t already done it…. Go hit that reblog button. Do what you have to, just do that too.
Like seriously. Just find one and reblog it real quick. I post a couple yesterday and put into the universe that I actually wanted it
Only been at work for a couple and I get this at as a tip! (tips ain’t normal at ALL in here)
Come on now!!
Let it work for y’all too
YALL!! THERE HAS BEEN AN INCREASE!! (I don’t know how your bank account is set up, but $55 dollars in tips counts as a blessing over here!)
*sending out money blessing vibes to y’all*
Counting my blessing and they total up to $60 today. (Got another $5 tip not too long ago)
Today was good. Im trying to maintain this same energy all this week to see what will come of it
I don’t care, I ain’t playin. Imma need one of these damn thangs to work, now.
I might as well not reblogging aint gone put money in my pocket
Let the universe know what you want
Cash app $drinabee if you tryna bless me
That works too I guess 😂😂 #BeTheBlessing
I mean if someone would like to bless a struggling college student, mine $neshao and I have Venmo 👀
Same if somebody wanna help me out $camjam21 😌
cash app me my birthday next year january $EzekielCrawford
gone be thirty and im scared help every dollar helps
Somebody sent $20 for my graduation 🎓 Saturday, cash app $drinabee if you want to donate too
Yo I reblogged that goat one and I ended up getting 27 dollars in my back account cause I got a refund on a sex toy that didnt work the day after i reblogged that shit
😂💀 blessings come in every shape and form
Exactly mine was just unconventional 😂
always taking donations $ChanteEunan
Tryna start burlesque dancing and i need cute shit $noeyyyy
$Katiana93 ❤️
$ashleykatina thanks in advance loves ❤️
PayPal: https://paypal.me/luciag9. ❤️❤️
why not lol 🙏🏾
I am constantly attracting abundance and opportunity
Hey, it worked! 😁 $56 tip on a $44 bill
Y’all seeing this and y’all still not believing yet. Maaaane just hit button and watch it work
I reblogged this and like 3 days later got a check for $49.26. It works, hoe.
I never pay attention to these, if it work ima come back
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i dropped off my resume at this place at 1:15 and got called for an interview at 1:45 holy dang
Today I got interviewed, hired, and then given a dollar raise and a better store location because the interviewer “liked my attitude”
REBLOG FOR GOOD JOB GETTING KARMA COME ON GRAB A PIECE
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you have been visited by the seven magic dragon balls
your biggest wish will be granted but only if you reblogCouldn’t risk it.
didn’t realize they change colors. now I know o gotta wish.
THIS SHIT IS REAL I GOT THE JOB I WAS NUTS ABOUT BC I REBLOGGED THIS YESTERDAY
maybe it’s a coinkidink but it okay just take the necessary steps to achieve what you’re wishing for and YOU CAN DO ITDragon Balls are always a reblog for me
Just cause I love dragon ball
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hello everyone,
so i know a lot of people don’t know me in the sims community but some do.. I don’t know how to start this off but I need help.. I’m embarrassed. I’m in a whole lot of debt and I recently lost my job so I have no source of money coming in. I started to sell items around my house just to get by, and I don’t like being open with my personal life, which is why I don’t reply to comments or link my personal account but, last week all I ate was crackers and tuna packets, so I decided that I would do anything, even if it involves asking the sims community. I need help getting by or at least help paying one credit card payment that’s passed due. I put a picture down below. I’m told after a week of late payments it tacs on and on. So please $1, $2, $5, even A PENNY will help! A reblog even! I’ll do anything I can for anyone that donates, wether it’s furnishing a home, creating sims, recolors, or wcif, dude anything. Anything I can do! I just need help. I don’t know what to say because again, I’m embarrassed and I don’t like asking for help.. but I need it. Please reblog! Thank you guys in advance. I made a new PayPal for donations and it’s linked down below. Please make donations USD and send a message or ask with your donation amount / name and request of what you want me to do for you donating! I’m asking for $200 right now to help pay this bill and a little more, after that I will stop accepting donations. Thank you again, I don’t really know what to do other than say thanks for even reading!
Donate HERE
please reblog if you can :,) anything helps
please help 💕
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things ts4 doesn’t need but i want:
- dutch doors
- playable typewriters
- bring houseboats back
- oil paintings
- velvet as a texture
- more plaid, argyle + tartan
- station wagons (even as decor)
- bikes, scooters + motorcycles (even as decor)
- a japanese-inspired world
- an alpine-inspired holiday world
- the ability to create a band and perform concerts
- more playable instruments
- riding boots + hacking jackets
- aviator caps, jackets + jodhpurs
- more pajama sets
- clothing (in general) that isn’t geared towards young adults
- the ability to own more than one property
- the ability to do away with cellphones entirely
- bring back the oceanographer + ghostbuster careers!
- memories, horoscopes, likes + dislikes
- tennis rackets, golf clubs, cricket bats etc. (as decor)
- pre-teens and babies that aren’t objects
- more (+ more diverse) teeth options
- eyepatches
- taxidermy!
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- dutch doors
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gravitationallychallengedrabbits:
Hey guys. I was informed today by my mom that she’s been thinking about kicking me out on my eighteenth birthday. My birthday is in just about three months, and while I do have a job, it pays hardly anything with the amount of hours I’m given. Each paycheck is just over $100 USD, and my parents are forcing me to pay them back for textbooks and making me pay for gas to get to school.
I don’t have a car, and I can’t drive yet, so I’m pretty much stuck in my house with no means of transportation and no way to get out. On top of this, I’m a college student and I have been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and major depression. I take medication for this, and they just informed me that I’m going to have to start paying for my medication and my weekly therapy appointments.
I really hate asking for money. So to reconcile for this, I promise that anyone who pays about $10 USD on either my Ko-fi or PayPal, I’ll write a drabble of whatever that person wants, from about 1k to 2k words.
Please don’t feel obligated to give, but it would mean the world to me if you guys could help. Even a little bit helps.
My goal is to move to Canada to be with my girlfriend - the deadline was two years, but now it looks like it might be sooner than that - and moving from California all the way to Ontario is going to be a feat in itself.
Even if you can’t give, a signal boost would be amazing. Thank you so much for all your love and support.
Pay-pal: https://paypal.me/renywrites
Ko-fi: http://ko-fi.com/renywrites
This is my other account. But please, guys, anything will help.
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vgfm:
Okay heads up for all Americans eligible to vote:
The Supreme Court just issues a ruling allowing Ohio and other states to purge voters from their election registration rolls due to their failure to cast a ballot in previous elections.
This is a major victory for the Trump administration and the GOP, and a direct consequence of the Supreme Court being stacked with more conservative judges (the votes were 5-4). This is also a huge part of what Trump/the GOP were counting on to save them in the 2018 midterm elections, which is where Democrats have been hoping to take back a majority in the House, giving them more power to combat Trump’s abuses of power and Republican legislation.
What this means is YOU CAN NOT ASSUME THAT YOU ARE REGISTERED for the 2018 elections, just because you SHOULD be. Thanks to this decision, red states can purge voters’ registration based on their not having cast a ballot in even just previous federal elections, NOT just the national Presidential elections. Effectively, if you haven’t voted in previous senate races or for congressional representatives in the past few years, that’s all they need now to say you’re no longer registered and need to register again.
They’re deliberately counting on people assuming they’re still registered and so not checking until after registration deadlines have passed, or showing up to vote this November and only then finding out they’re no longer registered, when its too late to do a damn thing about it.
And this is absolutely targeted at marginalized communities, low income voters, disabled voters, and basically anyone who simply can’t always AFFORD to keep on top of every federal election and show up to vote in every senate race, etc. Which not so coincidentally happen to be all the communities and voters who have the most to gain from Democratic victories in the 2018 midterms and are the least likely to cast votes for GOP candidates at this point.
This was absolutely a calculated effort aimed specifically at keeping the GOP in power with a majority control of the government come November, and unfortunately, it has a DAMN good chance of accomplishing just that if it goes by unacknowledged. I’m not looking to alarm or panic anyone, simply to say:
If you are a registered voter in a red state at this point, please please please do not take your registered status as assumed. Check on your registration status, look up all relevant voter registration deadlines for your state and district, CIRCLE THAT SHIT ON YOUR CALENDAR, and check your registration status AGAIN right before those deadlines pass, so you can be sure of it before its too late to do anything about it til the next voting cycle.
Yikes
Reblog this shit right now
Here’s a Twitter thread with resources for voters in every state to check on their registration status: https://twitter.com/AnaMardoll/status/1006221580458790912
Make sure you check it periodically because the newest voter roll purges likely haven’t happened yet.
Y’all, seriously, if you’re able to vote, make sure you’re registered now. Dozens of states are doing their damnedest to make it hard for you, including requiring you to register months before elections.
Vote in this election, please. There’s a census coming up, with a redraw of voting districts. If republicans are still in control, they’re going to gerrymander the fuck out of it.
That’s a really good point. Gerrymandering is already out of control and ridiculous (I live in one of the super effed up districts that was designed to make sure my vote is drowned out by Republican ones, it looks like a toddler drew the lines for it). If you don’t know what gerrymandering is check out this video that explains it, and why it is something that needs to be stopped.
The upcoming Midterm election is super important and the amount of people who don’t vote is insane. In the last election that landed us in the shit we are in now almost half of the population of eligible voters didn’t and that could have made a world of difference.
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Guys, Direct Relief (directrelief.org) is one of the highest-rated charities with 99% of donated money going directly to their programs. As I’m sure you’ve heard, Aleppo is about to be completely destroyed. DO is assisting with the Syrian Refugee Crisis and can use all the help they can get. If you are in a position to donate, please do so.
Whether or not you can donate, please reblog.
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Proving a point to my boyfriend.
PLEASE REBLOG if you (male or female) believe it is perfectly okay and natural for a guy of any age to cry
I’ve never hit reblog faster or harder.
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